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WebsiteCheck out our website's 'Events' section. NewsletterSubscribe to our newsletter for the latest updates. (See bottom of page to subscribe.)Social MediaYou can also follow our Facebook and Instagram pages for updates.Facebook | Instagram SLS | Swinglifestyle | SwingEvents are also listed on SLS.com on their Events page, Hot Dates page, and under our club page Rhody Boats. (Also on swinglifestyle.com and swing.com)Rhody Boats is one of three clubs in Rhode Island to be officially recognized as a lifestyle club by SLS' strict standards! You can also join our Rhody Boats group on SLS with over 2,000 local members and receive our updates on SLS. As an official SLS club and partner, many of our events are designated as SLS Special Events. This means SLS members receive discounted admission, the events feature SLS swag and premium membership giveaways, and SLS promotes the events regionally to every member beyond those who view our listing or are a part of our group.SLS is a premium swinger/lifestyle site, and the most widely used in New England. If you are not a member, you can join for free by clicking the banner on our home page.SDCOur events are listed on SDC.com under our business profile RHODYBOATS401. You can also join our SDC group Rhody Boats to receive updates.As an SDC partner, some of our events are designated as SDC nights, and feature SDC prizes and premium subscription giveaways. SDC members also receive a discount to any of our events.SDC is a premium swinger platform that is the largest in the world. They are popular in Canada, Europe, and in most of the United States including California, Texas, Florida, and New York. They are growing exponentially in New England.If you would like to join SDC for free, click the banner on any of our pages, or use the following link: SDC Free Membership EventbriteMany of our events can be found on Eventbrite. You can follow our organizer profile Rhody Boats Entertainment FetLifeThough FetLife focuses on the kink/fetish community, they have been working to expand their membership by promoting their site on Meta and Kik to the swinger community touting it as a "kinky dating" platform. Because it is free to join and free to engage other members, it has become popular with the swinger community, even though it lacks the filters and strict policy adherence found on premium swinger platforms. You can find our events listed there under RhodyBoats.
Any sex-positive adult! We welcome people from the lifestyle, swinger, ethical non-monogamy (ENM), polyamory, hedonist, and kink communities. Singles and couples are welcome, and Rhody Boats is LGBTQ+ friendly.New to all of this? You’re welcome, too. You don’t need a label or prior experience to join us. Whether you’re “just a civilian” or testing the waters, all we ask is that you follow the event rules, respect others’ boundaries, and practice consent.
Why Rhody Boats Embraces AITechnology changes. Creativity evolves. And The Captain has never been one to stand still.If you've spent any time following Rhody Boats, you've probably noticed something about our promotional materials. We love bold artwork, creative themes, elaborate event flyers, and imaginative imagery. And yes, we're happy to acknowledge that artificial intelligence (AI) plays an increasingly important role in how we create some of those materials.We also know that AI is controversial. Some people see it as an exciting new creative tool. Others see it as a threat to artists, jobs, privacy, and even humanity itself.We understand the concerns. But here's the thing: The Captain has heard all of these arguments before. Many times.And if history has taught him anything, it's that the people who embrace technological change tend to find opportunities where others see only threats.To understand why Rhody Boats embraces AI, you need to understand a little about the guy behind the wheel.Before Photoshop, There Was Spray Glue and an X-Acto KnifeLet's travel back to Providence in the 1990s.Long before Rhody Boats existed, The Captain was promoting concerts, clubs, and local bands. Back then, marketing a show meant creating newspaper advertisements, posters, and flyers. And creating those materials was a very different experience from what it is today.The Captain learned graphic design the old-fashioned way. Literally.In the newspaper business, pages were assembled by hand on enormous layout boards printed with light-blue gridlines that wouldn't reproduce in the final printing process.Articles were typed into a word processor, formatted to the exact width of a newspaper column, and printed. Then came the X-Acto knife.Each column was carefully cut out, sprayed with adhesive, and positioned on the layout board. Photographs were processed separately, sized, cut, and glued into place. Rolls of adhesive line tape in various thicknesses were used to create borders, dividers, and other design elements.Every headline, photograph, article, and decorative line had to be positioned manually.Making a mistake could mean peeling something off the board, cutting another piece, and starting over.Band flyers were equally labor-intensive. The Captain might draw the artwork himself, find a photograph or piece of clip art, enlarge or reduce it to the desired size, and assemble everything into a collage. The lettering might be hand-drawn or printed from a word processor.Once everything was arranged, the finished artwork went to the printer.There was no Undo button. No layers. No instant resizing. And definitely no "regenerate image" option.It was painstaking work. It was creative work. And The Captain loved it.But that didn't mean he wanted to do it that way forever.Then Came Desktop Publishing. And the Outrage Began.When desktop publishing software began transforming the printing industry, The Captain was among the early adopters.He invested in Aldus PageMaker and an enormous, portrait-oriented Macintosh monitor designed to display an entire page vertically.Suddenly, he could lay out newspaper pages and promotional materials directly on a computer screen.No spray glue. No X-Acto knives. No endless cutting and pasting.And you wouldn't believe how many people hated it.Traditional paste-up artists and designers insisted that computers were undermining their craft. Some feared that desktop publishing would eliminate jobs and destroy the graphic arts industry.Sound familiar?The Captain saw something different.He saw a technology that allowed creative people to work faster, experiment more freely, make changes without rebuilding an entire page, and produce professional materials with fewer resources.Did desktop publishing change the industry? Absolutely.Did some traditional jobs disappear or evolve? Of course.But it also made publishing and design accessible to countless people who previously couldn't afford the equipment, facilities, or production costs.The tools changed. The need for creativity didn't.The Internet: That Dangerous Place for Nerds and GeeksThe next revolution arrived when the internet began entering everyday life.And once again, The Captain was ready.In the early days of concert promotion, getting people to attend a show required an extraordinary amount of legwork.You printed flyers by the hundreds or thousands. You hung them around Providence. You handed them out at clubs, in parking lots, and on sidewalks. You spent nights visiting other bands' shows, introducing yourself to strangers, and convincing them to come see your band next weekend.And you spent hours on the telephone.Then email came along.The Captain's road crew girls began attending shows armed with clipboards, collecting email addresses from concertgoers interested in hearing about upcoming events.Those addresses became mailing lists.Instead of calling hundreds of people individually, he could reach them with a single message. Instead of spending every night visiting clubs to distribute flyers, he could communicate directly with fans.It also dramatically reduced the amount of paper being printed and distributed, fitting nicely with his professional ambition to create a more paperless office environment.But plenty of other promoters and musicians thought he was crazy.The internet, they insisted, was a fad. A playground for nerds and geeks. A dangerous, unregulated environment that ordinary people would never trust.People worried about privacy, fraud, security, and the lack of reliable ways to conduct business online.Some confidently predicted that the internet would destroy jobs, businesses, and society itself.The Captain wasn't buying it.He built websites for bands. He created online discussion boards. He embraced email marketing and eventually social networking.Yes, his bands even had Friendster and MySpace accounts.And as the internet matured, so did the tools that made it practical.Companies developed secure online payment systems, including PayPal. Cybersecurity companies created antivirus software, anti-spyware tools, and other protections. Browsers became more secure. Financial institutions developed safeguards for online transactions.Was the early internet the Wild West? In many ways, absolutely.But rather than abandon the technology because it had problems, innovators worked to solve those problems.Today, the internet supports entire industries, millions of jobs, and businesses that couldn't have existed without it.It also disrupted industries and eliminated some traditional roles. Technological progress isn't painless or universally beneficial.But imagine trying to operate a modern business while refusing to use the internet because you still believe it's just a fad.Photoshop Was Supposed to Destroy Art, TooThe Captain's professional background isn't limited to concert promotion.He earned a degree in psychology and spent the first half of his career working in sales and marketing for major biotechnology and life sciences companies.As his career evolved, he became increasingly involved in creative direction and marketing.But he believed something important: if you're going to direct creative professionals, you should understand the tools they use.So he went back to school and earned a certificate in graphic arts.He studied Adobe Photoshop, Illustrator, InDesign, Lightroom, and other professional design applications under instructors who had spent their careers working as graphic designers on major consumer brands, including campaigns involving iconic toys such as Mr. Potato Head, Barbie, and Matchbox.He wasn't learning these programs because he couldn't draw, design, or create things himself.He was learning them because a good creative professional never stops learning new ways to create.And once again, the controversy was familiar.When Photoshop and digital image manipulation became widely accessible, critics warned that the technology would destroy traditional photography, eliminate graphic design jobs, and undermine the value of original artwork.Instead, digital tools transformed creative production.Photographers gained extraordinary control over their images. Artists gained new ways to combine media. Designers could experiment with concepts that previously required expensive equipment or hours of manual labor.The technology didn't preserve every traditional job. But it created new disciplines, new opportunities, and entirely new forms of expression.Photoshop didn't make artistic talent irrelevant.It gave talented people another incredibly powerful tool.And it allowed people who might never have entered the industry to explore their creativity.Nearly 50 Years of Watching Technology Separate Survivors From CasualtiesToday, The Captain works as an analyst and marketing manager for a Boston-area software company with roots dating back to the 1970s.That's an extraordinary lifespan in the technology industry.Boston was once one of the centers of the computing universe. Companies rose and fell as entire generations of hardware and software became obsolete.The Captain has watched his company survive by doing something deceptively simple:Adapting.Over the decades, its technology evolved from systems built around Digital Equipment Corporation terminals, centralized computers, and enormous dot-matrix printers, through DOS-era systems, IBM platforms, Windows-based PCs, and locally networked servers.Eventually, software moved into the cloud.Today, users can access sophisticated business systems remotely, from virtually anywhere, using computers, tablets, and mobile devices. Transactions can be entered in real time, and information can be shared across an organization almost instantly.At every stage, there were people insisting that the old way was better.When businesses moved from terminals to PCs, critics warned that the new systems were unreliable.When software migrated from local servers to the cloud, skeptics argued that companies were surrendering control of their data.Some software providers refused to adapt, believing their customers would always prefer familiar systems and locally maintained infrastructure.Many of those companies eventually disappeared.Others survived by finding specialized markets or continuing to serve customers whose needs differed.But the lesson was unmistakable: standing still while the world changes is a dangerous business strategy.And now, after nearly half a century of evolution, The Captain's company is embracing another technological revolution.Artificial intelligence.Instead of spending days configuring reports, reviewing static data, and manually analyzing results, business users increasingly have the ability to ask questions in plain English and receive useful insights from their data.Imagine asking your business software a question about profitability, expenses, or project performance and receiving an answer without spending hours building reports.That doesn't eliminate the need for human judgment.It allows people to spend more time making decisions and less time digging through information.The objective isn't to replace the person making the decision. It's to give that person better tools to make it.And Now, Here Comes AI. Cue the Outrage.Here we are in 2026.Once again, a transformative technology is becoming widely accessible.And once again, we're hearing some very familiar arguments."AI is going to take everyone's jobs!""AI-generated art isn't real art!""AI is dangerous!""AI can't be trusted!""AI is going to destroy entire industries!"The Captain has heard versions of these arguments for more than thirty years.And to be fair, some of today's concerns are legitimate.AI raises serious questions about copyright, consent, misinformation, privacy, energy consumption, compensation for creative professionals, and the future of employment.Those questions deserve thoughtful discussion, responsible development, and meaningful safeguards.But there's a significant difference between recognizing a technology's risks and rejecting the technology altogether.We didn't abandon automobiles because they were dangerous. We developed seat belts, traffic laws, safety standards, and better engineering.We didn't abandon the internet because criminals discovered ways to exploit it. We developed stronger security, safer payment systems, and better consumer protections.And we shouldn't automatically reject AI because it presents challenges that society is still learning how to address.We should work to make it better.Technology doesn't become useful because it arrives perfect. It becomes useful because people keep improving it.So Why Does Rhody Boats Use AI?Here's where things get personal.The Captain has a full-time career.He's a father.He's been involved in community organizations and volunteer activities.He maintains a home, enjoys traveling, has an active personal life, and loves spending time with the people who matter to him.Oh, and somewhere in the middle of all that, he produces a few ridiculously fun, incredibly sexy Rhody Boats parties every month.And producing those events involves a lot more than showing up with a DJ controller and turning on the music.There are venues to coordinate, vendors to manage, guests to communicate with, websites to update, ticketing systems to maintain, themes to develop, decorations to plan, and promotional campaigns to create.And, of course, there are the flyers.Lots and lots of flyers.The Captain is an artist. He knows how to draw. He knows how to use professional graphic design software. He understands typography, composition, color, photography, image manipulation, and print production.He could absolutely sit down with Photoshop or Illustrator and spend four or five hours designing an elaborate promotional flyer from scratch.And sometimes, when the project calls for it, he does.But here's a question:If he can use AI to develop an imaginative, professional-looking event flyer in a fraction of that time, why wouldn't he?Why spend an entire evening manually creating a promotional image when that time could be spent improving the actual event, spending time with family, enjoying his relationship, or simply living his life?That doesn't mean he stops being creative.He's still the one imagining the theme, developing the concept, deciding what the artwork should communicate, evaluating the results, and refining the finished product.AI doesn't decide what kind of party Rhody Boats should throw.AI doesn't know our guests, understand our community, select our venues, or create the atmosphere people experience when they walk through the door.The Captain does that.AI simply gives him another way to bring his ideas to life.And after decades of learning new creative technologies, he's perfectly comfortable adding another tool to the toolbox.Meet Calamity: An Artist Who Helps Build the Future of AIThere's another reason The Captain has a particularly interesting perspective on artificial intelligence.His beautiful partner, Calamity, works in the field.And she's an artist, too.In her spare time, Calamity is a talented seamstress who creates extraordinary custom dresses and garments. She understands craftsmanship, originality, creativity, and the satisfaction of making something beautiful with her own hands.But during the workday?She works for Google, helping develop and improve artificial intelligence tools.Her work involves helping evaluate AI systems, improve the quality of their output, and develop the guardrails and controls that make these technologies more reliable and responsible.In other words, she helps address the very concerns that make some people nervous about AI.The Captain finds that combination particularly meaningful.Here's a woman who appreciates traditional craftsmanship, creates beautiful things herself, and also works on the technologies that will shape the future of creativity and information.She doesn't have to choose between being an artist and embracing AI.Neither does anyone else.And that's an important part of the Rhody Boats philosophy.You can respect traditional art, appreciate handmade craftsmanship, support working artists, and still embrace new creative technologies.Those ideas aren't mutually exclusive.Does Using AI Mean We Don't Support Artists?Absolutely not.The Captain has spent decades working with musicians, photographers, designers, performers, and other creative professionals.He knows firsthand how much time, skill, practice, and dedication go into creating original work.And he understands that AI presents genuine challenges for people whose livelihoods depend on creative production.But he also believes that creative technology shouldn't be judged solely by whether it makes an existing process easier.When photography became accessible, it didn't eliminate painting.When synthesizers became popular, they didn't eliminate musicians.When desktop publishing arrived, it didn't eliminate graphic design.And when digital cameras and Photoshop became mainstream, they didn't eliminate the need for talented photographers.They changed how creative work was produced, what customers expected, and which skills were most valuable.AI is likely to bring similarly significant changes, and some of those changes will be difficult.That's why questions about fair compensation, intellectual property, and responsible use matter.At Rhody Boats, we believe there is room for both human-created and AI-assisted artwork.We also believe that using AI doesn't excuse plagiarism, misrepresentation, or disrespect for other people's creative work.And we don't believe that every piece of AI-generated imagery is automatically a masterpiece.Sometimes AI produces spectacular results.Sometimes it produces absolute garbage.Just like any creative tool, its usefulness depends on how it's applied, the judgment behind it, and the quality of the finished work.Our Philosophy: Adapt, Create, and Keep Moving ForwardThere's an old principle that has guided human progress for thousands of years:Adapt and survive.That doesn't mean blindly accepting every invention or jumping on every technological bandwagon.It means remaining curious. Being willing to learn. Recognizing when a new tool can improve the way you work, create, or live.The Captain has watched technology transform his world repeatedly.He went from spray glue and X-Acto knives to desktop publishing.From hand-drawn band flyers to Photoshop.From telephone lists and parking-lot handouts to email marketing and social media.From mainframe terminals and dot-matrix printers to cloud computing and mobile applications.And now, from manually producing every graphic to incorporating artificial intelligence into the creative process.At every step, there were people convinced that the newest technology was going to ruin everything.At every step, there were real challenges and legitimate reasons for caution.And at every step, people who learned to use the technology responsibly discovered new possibilities.Rhody Boats isn't a technology company.We're an event production company that brings adults together for memorable nights of music, dancing, excitement, friendship, and fun.But we're also a company that believes in creativity, imagination, efficiency, and making the most of the time we have.If AI helps us produce better promotional materials, communicate more effectively, explore more imaginative themes, and devote more time and energy to the events themselves, we're going to use it.Not because we're incapable of doing things the old-fashioned way.Because we've done things the old-fashioned way. We know exactly how much work it takes.And because we understand that the value of an experience isn't measured by how many hours someone spent designing the flyer that advertised it.It's measured by the experience itself.The Bottom LineThe Captain still knows how to use an X-Acto knife.He still knows how to draw.He still knows his way around Photoshop, Illustrator, and the rest of the creative toolbox.And if someone wants to challenge him to a traditional cut-and-paste newspaper layout competition, he'd probably enjoy the nostalgia.But he'd also rather spend Saturday night surrounded by great people, dancing to great music, and hosting an unforgettable Rhody Boats party than sitting at a drafting table with a can of spray adhesive.Technology has always been about giving people new ways to accomplish things.And when it works well, it gives us something even more valuable than convenience.It gives us time.Time to create. Time to explore. Time to connect. Time to live.That's why Rhody Boats embraces AI.And if history is any indication, this won't be the last technological revolution The Captain enthusiastically welcomes aboard.The world keeps changing. We're going to keep creating.Fair winds, following seas, and a little artificial intelligence.— The Captain
Rhody Boats Expected Behavior FAQA Safe, Respectful, Sexy Environment for EveryoneAt every Rhody Boats event, consent, comfort, and community come first. Here’s how to navigate our spaces with confidence and respect. Is respect optional?Absolutely not. Respect is mandatory and non-negotiable.Everyone is here to have fun, and everyone deserves to feel safe, valued, and in control of their own experience.
What about consent?Consent is required at all times. This means:Always ask before touching anyone.Take “No” as “No”—every single time, without exception.A “Yes” can become a “No” at any moment. If it does, stop immediately.Pressuring anyone - verbally or physically - to do anything is strictly prohibited.Consent isn’t a suggestion. It’s the anchor that keeps our events safe.The kink community has long perpetuated a rumor that swinger parties do not require consent. This is ABSOLUTELY NOT TRUE. There is not a swinger venue we are aware of in North America that does not require consent, and we've been to hundreds! However, while many kink events apply consent to verbal exchanges, swinger events do not require consent to talk to people. Consent is absolutely required before touching someone physically.Can an intoxicated person give consent?No. If someone is visibly intoxicated, they cannot consent to intimate activity. Never attempt to engage with someone who is not fully present and aware.And remember: Intoxication is never sexy.
Are there any behavior zero-tolerance policies?• We will not tolerate any behavior rooted in racism, sexism, homophobia, transphobia, biphobia, body shaming, or prejudice of any kind.• We do not tolerate anyone harassing, bullying, shaming, or anyone who continues with unwelcome advances, either verbal or physical.• We do not tolerate anyone beligerant, mean, or violent.• We do not allow anyone who shows visible signs of illicit drug use - guests must be in control of their mindset at all times.• Projecting phobia or hostility onto another guest is grounds for immediate removal.What’s the general vibe you expect from guests?• Keep it classy. Respect personal space.• Follow the community guidelines. Make people feel comfortable and welcome. Treat others the way you want to be treated.• You’re here to have fun, but never at someone else’s expense.Play Space FAQ
Can I enter a closed play room?No. Never open a closed door. A closed door means do not enter.If you think a room might be empty, ask a staff member to check. Do not open the door yourself under any circumstances.
What if the door is open and people are playing?If the door is open:You are welcome to watch,But you must ask for consent before joining.If they say no, accept it graciously and move along.Voyeurism is welcome. Boundaries are respected.
What about open play spaces? How should I behave?Open play spaces allow observation—but still require respect.Do:Be mindful of proximityGive people spaceAsk before engaging in anythingMaintain a positive, respectful vibeMasturbation is permitted, but be discreet, respectful, and aware so you don’t disrupt scene energy.
What do I do with sheets, condoms, or trash?Keep the play spaces clean for the next crew:Remove soiled sheets and put fresh ones downPlace dirty sheets in the laundry basketsDispose of all condoms, wrappers, wipes, and trash in the provided receptaclesLeave the space better than you found it.How should I communicate before play?Before engaging with anyone:Talk about boundariesDiscuss rules clearlyRespect everyone’s limitsAsk questions if you’re unsureSimple, clear communication keeps the experience safe and fun for everyone.
What should partners discuss before arriving at the event?We strongly recommend couples discuss their personal boundaries before attending. This can include:Condom useSTI testing expectationsKissingPenetrationAnal playBisexual interactionsSoft play vs. full playAny hard limitsAny emotional boundariesOnce you know your own limits, communicate them to potential partners clearly and respectfully.Rules for CouplesBoth members of a couple shall arrive together and leave together.Single men may invite a date and attend as a couple, but must adhere to the above rule.Single men who arrived with a date, but are found to be "ditching" their date while actively trying to engage in the play areas as a single male may be asked to leave (it is acceptable for members of a couple to play separately and it is not required for couples to stay together at all times through the night - this policy will be reviewed on a case-by-case basis and is only mentioned to address very gross infractions).A person found to have "ditched" their date without a ride or without notice may be banned from attending future events. Arrive together - leave together.Consent between couples is just as important as consent between other guests. A coupled person found to be forcing or pressuring their date or partner into a situation they are not comfortable with will be asked to leave.Final ThoughtWe’re here to help everyone enjoy a safe, sexy, drama-free night. Follow the rules, respect each other, and let’s keep these parties fun for everyone!
Why Rhody Boats Uses Gender-Based Pricing
A Transparent Explanation
At Rhody Boats, we work hard to create events that are safe, consensual, balanced, and deeply enjoyable for every guest who walks through the door. Because of this, we use a gender-based pricing model - not to exclude anyone, but to protect the atmosphere, encourage respect, and maintain the core nature of what lifestyle events are meant to be.
Below is the clear, real explanation behind our pricing structure.
The Single Male Premium: Purpose, Not Punishment
The higher admission price for single men is not designed to exclude, shame, or judge. It exists for one very specific reason:
To ensure respect and rule adherence.
While many single men are wonderful guests, we’ve also seen a recurring pattern across the lifestyle:
Some single male attendees struggle with uncontrolled sexual neediness, boundary-pushing, or a lack of respect in intimate spaces. Even with vetting, screening, reminders, and rules, this behavior appears more frequently in this demographic than any other.
The premium cost serves as a behavior filter rather than a gender punishment:
When a single man pays a premium, he has more “skin in the game.”
He is far more likely to follow rules carefully because he does not want to risk being asked to leave.
The value of his admission increases his personal accountability and decreases rule violations.
In other words: The premium makes his presence matter more to him—and that benefits everyone.
This policy protects the couples, single women, and respectful single men, transgendered individuals, and non-binary folks who make our community great.
Why We Didn’t Use Gender Pricing Earlier
For years, Rhody Boats avoided gender-based pricing entirely. We didn’t believe in it, and frankly - we didn’t need it.
We were hosting smaller parties, social mixers, off-night gatherings, or events that didn’t include nudity or on-premise play. In those settings, pricing was simple, and gender imbalance wasn’t an issue.
But times changed.
We’re fortunate to be in an area with many strong lifestyle venues, and our events now run on premium nights, draw large crowds, and include on-premise play, multiple rooms, setups, and staff requirements.
That means:
We must remain competitive
We must protect the vibe
And we must ensure safety, comfort, and balance as our events get larger
Established clubs in our region are not changing their pricing models—and in order to compete while maintaining a respectful environment, we must operate within the realities of the lifestyle scene in our area.
Why Our Pricing Prioritizes Couples
Lifestyle events exist, at their core, for couples exploring sexual openness together. That is the heart and soul of what we do.
Because of that:
Our pricing is anchored around couples, in alignment with the foundation of the lifestyle itself.
Most couples are open to welcoming a single female into their experience.
Very few single women choose to attend alone or feel comfortable doing so.
For that reason, offering a discount to the small number of single women brave enough to attend solo:
Encourages gender balance
Adds value for couples
Aligns with the true structure of lifestyle events
Supports women who might otherwise be hesitant to participate alone
Importantly: The single female discount never implies expectation or obligation. Women are not brought in to “feed” predatory men - ever.
Why Single Men Are Priced Higher
Single men reach out to attend in enormous numbers—far more than any other demographic.
Because they are so eager to attend, we must limit their volume to protect:
Consent
Comfort
Balance
And the overall energy of the night
Asking them to pay a premium accomplishes three essential things:
It keeps attendance manageable
It communicates that their presence is a privilege, not a guarantee
It reinforces the importance of respectful behavior
And again:
The single male premium does NOT include any promise of sexual interaction.
Nothing is guaranteed. Everyone must seek consent. No one is owed anything.
Pricing Is A Carefully Considered Safety Tool
For every event, we evaluate:
Venue size
Venue cost
Staffing needs
Security requirements
Expected guest volume
The number and type of play areas
The balance between couples, single women, and single men
The experience we want guests to have
Then we adjust pricing to match.
When an event offers many play rooms or a higher-volume guest count, we:
Increase single male pricing (to reinforce respect and balance)
Increase single female discounts (to encourage participation and comfort)
This isn’t about making money - it’s about protecting the vibe.
Because in lifestyle settings, it only takes one person acting inappropriately to ruin the night for everyone. Pricing is one of several tools we use - along with screening, security, policy enforcement, and active event management - to maintain the safe, respectful environment Rhody Boats is known for.
Final Thoughts
Gender-based pricing isn’t about exclusion. It’s about:
Maintaining balance
Reinforcing consent
Rewarding good behavior
Reducing rule violations
Protecting couples
Supporting single women
Encouraging respectful, high-quality single men
And preserving the atmosphere our guests value
We care deeply about the culture and safety of our events, and our pricing structure is just one of the ways we ensure every guest feels respected, valued, and comfortable.
Rhody Boats Where respect sets the tone, consent charts the course, and every sailor deserves an amazing night.
Rhody Boats Inclusion & Respect Policy
A Safe Harbor for Every Sailor
At Rhody Boats, our mission is simple: create a fun, open, and welcoming environment where adults can explore, connect, and feel safe being exactly who they are.
To do that, we believe in clear expectations, kindness, and mutual respect - on deck, in the social spaces, and in the more intimate areas of our events.
Below is our Inclusion Policy, written with care to support all members of our community.
Keep in mind Rhody Boats is a swinger group who actively promotes swinger events, which are traditionally focused on cis-gender couples. We have not marketed them (nor do we plan to) as anything else.
The reality is we have built a reputation for throwing some very cool parties with large crowds, hot vibes, ice-breakers, active hosts, themes, and we put a LOT into the production value of our events.
This has made the appeal of our events such that individuals not traditionally included in the focus of swinger events to inquire about attending. We always just said yes, until we realized that to be responsible hosts who offer a safe space to all, we needed to develop an inclusion policy.
We can assure you this is not some AI-generated nonsense, but a policy carefully thought out and developed over time using input from a broad spectrum of individuals and uses a base framework borrowed from Le Club L in Montreal - though obviously developed far beyond that.
Male Bisexuality & Sexual Openness
Our crew includes people from many backgrounds and orientations. We’re seeing more men in the swinger community openly embracing their bisexuality, and many of our guests - women and men - share that same openness.
It is unfortunate in the swinger community that some bisexual men feel a need to hide their bisexuality for fear of judgement by heterosexual men.
It is perfectly normal for heterosexual guests to feel uncertain or uncomfortable engaging intimately with someone bisexual. However, your attractions, boundaries, and comfort levels are personal, valid, and never judged in the Rhody Boats community. We will never tolerate homophobia at our events.
If you’re not comfortable with intimacy with any guest for any reason:
It’s absolutely okay to say so
Please express it kindly and respectfully
No one should ever feel they must hide who they are
At Rhody Boats, openness is encouraged—and respect is required.
Transgender Guests
Transgender people are welcome at Rhody Boats anytime.
Our team has been trained to ensure transgender guests feel safe, affirmed, and respected at all moments throughout an event.
For entry and attendance:
Transgender women follow the same guidelines as cisgender women
Transgender men follow the same guidelines as cisgender men
In most social areas, transgender guests blend comfortably with our friendly, open-minded crowd. In the more intimate spaces, some guests—beginners and experienced alike - may simply be unfamiliar or surprised due to lack of exposure.
A moment of surprise does not mean transphobia; however:
We have zero tolerance for harassment, shaming, or projecting prejudice of any kind.
If you are not attracted to someone - including a transgender guest - declining intimacy is always acceptable.
It must be done politely, without judgment, and with respect.
Many members of our community are genuinely excited to meet transgender guests, socialize, and - if the stars align - have some fun together. But as always:
No one is ever obligated to enter play spaces or participate in anything they don't want.
Non-Binary Guests
We care deeply about inclusivity, and this is a topic we regularly review as our community continues to grow and evolve.
At this time, we do not have a separate guest tier for non-binary attendees. This does not mean non-binary guests are not welcome at our events.
Creating a non-binary category would likely be misused by some men attempting to bypass gender balance limits and pricing, which compromises safety, comfort, and event quality.
Therefore, we encourage non-binary guests who wish to attend our events to use the single female pricing tier. (This does NOT imply we recognize non-binary guests as female. It simply avoids unfairly imposing the single male premium.)
Any cis-gender males found to be inappropriately abusing this price tier to bypass gender balance limits or pricing structures may be asked to leave and may be banned from future Rhody Boats events. This does not imply our non-binary guests will be scrutinized in any way - it only applies to those found to be blatantly misrepresenting to take advantage of the controls in place to gender balance.
Gay/Lesbian Couples
Gay and lesbian individuals and couples are always welcome at our events.
As far as pricing, lesbian couples may choose to attend using the single female discount for individual tickets. However, some lesbian couples who have attended have insisted on using the more expensive couples tier - and you are free to do so, but not required to do so.
Coupled gay men may use the couples pricing tier so long as they follow the policy that couples arrive together and leave together. If you are not able to arrive or leave together, we do ask that you use the single male tier in fairness.
Coupled gay men are not required to remain together for the entirety of the event, and may engage socially or in play with other guests however they like, just as any other couple. However - any men found to be grossly misusing this policy by misrepresenting themselves to circumnavigate our single male policies will be asked to leave or possibly banned. Again, this does not mean we are actively policing anyone's status or identity - we only act when abuse of our policies is painfully obvious.
Wristbands
Rhody Boats often does use wristbands at our events. While some other groups or venues use a wristband system to identify gender or couple status with different colors or designs, we do not. Our wristbands are simply to let staff see that you did not sneak into the event to avoid security screening. Mostly we use a single color for each guest that night, but occasionally we will receive an assortment of silicone bracelets from our partners/sponsors intended as giveaways - and if we have enough for everyone at an event, we will use these as wristbands at an event to avoid adding to landfills and leaving guests with a souvenir. These may come in assorted colors - but those colors are distributed randomly - so please don't assume the color of your bracelet has any meaning.
Our Promise
Rhody Boats will always be:
A respectful space
A judgment-free environment
A place where your boundaries matter
A crew that protects one another
A party where everyone is free to be themselves
While attractions differ and comfort levels vary, every guest deserves kindness.
If issues arise or you have questions, thoughts, or suggestions, please reach out. We genuinely want to hear from you.
Call or text us anytime at (401) 450-9614.
⚓ Rhody Boats Where every sailor finds their place - and every voyage is safe, sexy, and full of connection.
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