Question 1

Where do you find info on our upcoming events?

Accepted Answer

Website
Check out our website's 'Events' section.

Newsletter
Subscribe to our newsletter for the latest updates. (See bottom of page to subscribe.)

Social Media
You can also follow our Facebook and Instagram pages for updates.
Facebook | Instagram

SLS | Swinglifestyle | Swing
Events are also listed on SLS.com on their Events page, Hot Dates page, and under our club page Rhody Boats. (Also on swinglifestyle.com and swing.com)

Rhody Boats is one of three clubs in Rhode Island to be officially recognized as a lifestyle club by SLS' strict standards!

You can also join our Rhody Boats group on SLS with over 2,000 local members and receive our updates on SLS.

As an official SLS club and partner, many of our events are designated as SLS Special Events. This means SLS members receive discounted admission, the events feature SLS swag and premium membership giveaways, and SLS promotes the events regionally to every member beyond those who view our listing or are a part of our group.

SLS is a premium swinger/lifestyle site, and the most widely used in New England. If you are not a member, you can join for free by clicking the banner on our home page.

SDC
Our events are listed on SDC.com under our business profile RHODYBOATS401. You can also join our SDC group Rhody Boats to receive updates.

As an SDC partner and officially recognized business, some of our events are designated as SDC nights, and feature SDC prizes and premium subscription giveaways. SDC members also receive a discount to any of our events.

SDC is a premium swinger platform that is the largest in the world. They are popular in Canada, Europe, and in most of the United States including California, Texas, Florida, and New York. They are growing exponentially in New England.

If you would like to join SDC for free, click the banner on any of our pages, or use the following link: SDC Free Membership

Eventbrite
Many of our events can be found on Eventbrite. You can follow our organizer profile Rhody Boats Entertainment

FetLife
Though FetLife focuses on the kink/fetish community, they have been working to expand their membership by promoting their site on Meta and Kik to the swinger community touting it as a "kinky dating" platform.

Because it is free to join and free to engage other members, it has become popular with the swinger community, even though it lacks the filters and strict policy adherence found on premium swinger platforms. (Simply stated - there is a LOT of garbage to sift through because of the free nature of the site.)

A former crew member of Rhody Boats would promote our events on FetLife - and as a result we would see a few  new faces at each event, so we decided to continue promoting there, though we do highly suggest the premium sites for a cleaner overall experience.

Question 2

What events do we organize?

Accepted Answer

We organize: lifestyle booze cruises, party bus pub crawls, karaoke parties, themed lifestyle parties, club takeovers, lifestyle socials, and special lifestyle events.

Our events are all about creating fun and memorable experiences for the lifestyle community.

Join us and make new friends!

Question 3

How do we keep you safe at our events?

Accepted Answer

Your safety is our top priority!

We have professional security at all events.

Our community is also self-policing, so if you need help, just ask anyone.

Report any issues to us immediately so we can handle them. Stay safe and have fun! 🛡️

Question 4

What's the expected behavior at our events?

Accepted Answer

Rhody Boats Expected Behavior FAQ
A Safe, Respectful, Sexy Environment for Everyone
At every Rhody Boats event, consent, comfort, and community come first. 
Here’s how to navigate our spaces with confidence and respect.

Is respect optional?
Absolutely not. Respect is mandatory and non-negotiable.
Everyone is here to have fun, and everyone deserves to feel safe, valued, and in control of their own experience.

What about consent?
Consent is required at all times. 
This means:
Always ask before touching anyone.
Take “No” as “No”—every single time, without exception.
A  “Yes” can become a “No” at any moment. If it does, stop immediately.
Pressuring  anyone - verbally or physically - to do anything is strictly prohibited.
Consent isn’t a suggestion. It’s the anchor that keeps our events safe.

The kink community has long perpetuated a rumor that swinger parties do not require consent. This is ABSOLUTELY NOT TRUE. There is not a swinger venue we are aware of in North America that does not require consent, and we've been to hundreds!  However, while many kink events apply consent to verbal exchanges, swinger events do not require consent to talk to people. Consent is absolutely required before touching someone physically.

Can an intoxicated person give consent?
No. 
If someone is visibly intoxicated, they cannot consent to intimate activity. Never attempt to engage with someone who is not fully present and aware.
And remember: Intoxication is never sexy.

Are there any behavior zero-tolerance policies?
• We will not tolerate any behavior rooted in racism, sexism, homophobia, transphobia, biphobia, body shaming, or prejudice of any kind.
• We do not tolerate anyone harassing, bullying, shaming, or anyone who continues with unwelcome advances, either verbal or physical.
• We do not tolerate anyone beligerant, mean, or violent.
• We do not allow anyone who shows visible signs of illicit drug use - guests must be in control of their mindset at all times.
• Projecting phobia or hostility onto another guest is grounds for immediate removal.

What’s the general vibe you expect from guests?
• Keep it classy. Respect personal space.
• Follow the community guidelines. Make people feel comfortable and welcome. Treat others the way you want to be treated.
• You’re here to have fun, but never at someone else’s expense.

Play Space FAQ

Can I enter a closed play room?
No. Never open a closed door. A closed door means do not enter.
If you think a room might be empty, ask a staff member to check. Do not open the door yourself under any circumstances.

What if the door is open and people are playing?
If the door is open:
You are welcome to watch,
But you must ask for consent before joining.
If they say no, accept it graciously and move along.
Voyeurism is welcome. Boundaries are respected.

What about open play spaces? How should I behave?
Open play spaces allow observation—but still require respect.
Do:
Be mindful of proximity
Give people space
Ask before engaging in anything
Maintain a positive, respectful vibe
Masturbation is permitted, but be discreet, respectful, and aware so you don’t disrupt scene energy.

What do I do with sheets, condoms, or trash?
Keep the play spaces clean for the next crew:
Remove  soiled sheets and put fresh ones down
Place dirty sheets in the laundry baskets
Dispose of all condoms, wrappers, wipes, and trash in the provided receptacles
Leave the space better than you found it.

How should I communicate before play?
Before engaging with anyone:
Talk about boundaries
Discuss rules clearly
Respect everyone’s limits
Ask questions if you’re unsure
Simple, clear communication keeps the experience safe and fun for everyone.

What should partners discuss before arriving at the event?
We strongly recommend couples discuss their personal boundaries before attending. This can include:
Condom use
STI testing expectations
Kissing
Penetration
Anal play
Bisexual interactions
Soft play vs. full play
Any hard limits
Any emotional boundaries
Once you know your own limits, communicate them to potential partners clearly and respectfully.

Rules for Couples
Both members of a couple shall arrive together and leave together.
Single men may invite a date and attend as a couple, but must adhere to the above rule.
Single men who arrived with a date, but are found to be "ditching" their date while actively trying to engage in the play areas as a single male may be asked to leave (it is acceptable for members of a couple to play separately and it is not required for couples to stay together at all times through the night - this policy will be reviewed on a case-by-case basis and is only mentioned to address very gross infractions).
A person found to have "ditched" their date without a ride or without notice may be banned from attending future events. Arrive together - leave together.
Consent between couples is just as important as consent between other guests. A coupled person found to be forcing or pressuring their date or partner into a situation they are not comfortable with will be asked to leave.

Final Thought
We’re here to help everyone enjoy a safe, sexy, drama-free night. Follow the rules, respect each other, and let’s keep these parties fun for everyone!

Question 5

Gender-Based Pricing Policy

Accepted Answer

Why Rhody Boats Uses Gender-Based Pricing
A Transparent Explanation

At Rhody Boats, we work hard to create events that are safe, consensual, balanced, and deeply enjoyable for every guest who walks through the door. Because of this, we use a gender-based pricing model - not to exclude anyone, but to protect the atmosphere, encourage respect, and maintain the core nature of what lifestyle events are meant to be.

Below is the clear, real explanation behind our pricing structure.

The Single Male Premium: Purpose, Not Punishment

The higher admission price for single men is not designed to exclude, shame, or judge. It exists for one very specific reason:

To ensure respect and rule adherence.

While many single men are wonderful guests, we’ve also seen a recurring pattern across the lifestyle:

Some single male attendees struggle with uncontrolled sexual neediness, boundary-pushing, or a lack of respect in intimate spaces. Even with vetting, screening, reminders, and rules, this behavior appears more frequently in this demographic than any other.

The premium cost serves as a behavior filter rather than a gender punishment:
When a single man pays a premium, he has more “skin in the game.”
He is far more likely to follow rules carefully because he does not want to risk being asked to leave.
The value of his admission increases his personal accountability and decreases rule violations.

In other words: The premium makes his presence matter more to him—and that benefits everyone.

This policy protects the couples, single women, and respectful single men, transgendered individuals, and non-binary folks who make our community great.

Why We Didn’t Use Gender Pricing Earlier

For years, Rhody Boats avoided gender-based pricing entirely. We didn’t believe in it, and frankly - we didn’t need it.

We were hosting smaller parties, social mixers, off-night gatherings, or events that didn’t include nudity or on-premise play. In those settings, pricing was simple, and gender imbalance wasn’t an issue.

But times changed.

We’re fortunate to be in an area with many strong lifestyle venues, and our events now run on premium nights, draw large crowds, and include on-premise play, multiple rooms, setups, and staff requirements.

That means:
We must remain competitive
We must protect the vibe
And we must ensure safety, comfort, and balance as our events get larger

Established clubs in our region are not changing their pricing models—and in order to compete while maintaining a respectful environment, we must operate within the realities of the lifestyle scene in our area.

Why Our Pricing Prioritizes Couples

Lifestyle events exist, at their core, for couples exploring sexual openness together. That is the heart and soul of what we do.

Because of that:
Our pricing is anchored around couples, in alignment with the foundation of the lifestyle itself.
Most couples are open to welcoming a single female into their experience.
Very few single women choose to attend alone or feel comfortable doing so.

For that reason, offering a discount to the small number of single women brave enough to attend solo:
Encourages gender balance
Adds value for couples
Aligns with the true structure of lifestyle events
Supports women who might otherwise be hesitant to participate alone

Importantly: The single female discount never implies expectation or obligation. Women are not brought in to “feed” predatory men - ever.

Why Single Men Are Priced Higher

Single men reach out to attend in enormous numbers—far more than any other demographic.

Because they are so eager to attend, we must limit their volume to protect:
Consent
Comfort
Balance
And the overall energy of the night

Asking them to pay a premium accomplishes three essential things:
It keeps attendance manageable
It communicates that their presence is a privilege, not a guarantee
It reinforces the importance of respectful behavior

And again:
The single male premium does NOT include any promise of sexual interaction.

Nothing is guaranteed. Everyone must seek consent. No one is owed anything.

Pricing Is A Carefully Considered Safety Tool

For every event, we evaluate:
Venue size
Venue cost
Staffing needs
Security requirements
Expected guest volume
The number and type of play areas
The balance between couples, single women, and single men
The experience we want guests to have

Then we adjust pricing to match.

When an event offers many play rooms or a higher-volume guest count, we:
Increase single male pricing (to reinforce respect and balance)
Increase single female discounts (to encourage participation and comfort)

This isn’t about making money - it’s about protecting the vibe.

Because in lifestyle settings, it only takes one person acting inappropriately to ruin the night for everyone. Pricing is one of several tools we use - along with screening, security, policy enforcement, and active event management - to maintain the safe, respectful environment Rhody Boats is known for.

Final Thoughts

Gender-based pricing isn’t about exclusion. It’s about:
Maintaining balance
Reinforcing consent
Rewarding good behavior
Reducing rule violations
Protecting couples
Supporting single women
Encouraging respectful, high-quality single men
And preserving the atmosphere our guests value

We care deeply about the culture and safety of our events, and our pricing structure is just one of the ways we ensure every guest feels respected, valued, and comfortable.

Rhody Boats Where respect sets the tone, consent charts the course, and every sailor deserves an amazing night.

Question 6

Inclusion and Respect

Accepted Answer

Rhody Boats Inclusion & Respect Policy
A Safe Harbor for Every Sailor

At Rhody Boats, our mission is simple: create a fun, open, and welcoming environment where adults can explore, connect, and feel safe being exactly who they are.

To do that, we believe in clear expectations, kindness, and mutual respect - on deck, in the social spaces, and in the more intimate areas of our events.

Below is our Inclusion Policy, written with care to support all members of our community.

Keep in mind Rhody Boats is a swinger group who actively promotes swinger events, which are traditionally focused on cis-gender couples. We have not marketed them (nor do we plan to) as anything else.

The reality is we have built a reputation for throwing some very cool parties with large crowds, hot vibes, ice-breakers, active hosts, themes, and we put a LOT into the production value of our events.

This has made the appeal of our events such that individuals not traditionally included in the focus of swinger events to inquire about attending. We always just said yes, until we realized that to be responsible hosts who offer a safe space to all, we needed to develop an inclusion policy.

We can assure you this is not some AI-generated nonsense, but a policy carefully thought out and developed over time using input from a broad spectrum of individuals and uses a base framework borrowed from Le Club L in Montreal - though obviously developed far beyond that.

Male Bisexuality & Sexual Openness
Our crew includes people from many backgrounds and orientations. We’re seeing more men in the swinger community openly embracing their bisexuality, and many of our guests - women and men - share that same openness.

It is unfortunate in the swinger community that some bisexual men feel a need to hide their bisexuality for fear of judgement by heterosexual men.

It is perfectly normal for heterosexual guests to feel uncertain or uncomfortable engaging intimately with someone bisexual. However, your attractions, boundaries, and comfort levels are personal, valid, and never judged in the Rhody Boats community. We will never tolerate homophobia at our events.

If you’re not comfortable with intimacy with any guest for any reason:
It’s absolutely okay to say so
Please express it kindly and respectfully
No one should ever feel they must hide who they are

At Rhody Boats, openness is encouraged—and respect is required.

Transgender Guests

Transgender people are welcome at Rhody Boats anytime. 
Our team has been trained to ensure transgender guests feel safe, affirmed, and respected at all moments throughout an event.

For entry and attendance:
Transgender women follow the same guidelines as cisgender women
Transgender men follow the same guidelines as cisgender men

In most social areas, transgender guests blend comfortably with our friendly, open-minded crowd. In the more intimate spaces, some guests—beginners and experienced alike - may simply be unfamiliar or surprised due to lack of exposure.

A moment of surprise does not mean transphobia; however:

We have zero tolerance for harassment, shaming, or projecting prejudice of any kind.

If you are not attracted to someone - including a transgender guest - declining intimacy is always acceptable.

It must be done politely, without judgment, and with respect.

Many members of our community are genuinely excited to meet transgender guests, socialize, and - if the stars align - have some fun together. But as always:

No one is ever obligated to enter play spaces or participate in anything they don't want.

Non-Binary Guests

We care deeply about inclusivity, and this is a topic we regularly review as our community continues to grow and evolve.

At this time, we do not have a separate guest tier for non-binary attendees. This does not mean non-binary guests are not welcome at our events.

Creating a non-binary category would likely be misused by some men attempting to bypass gender balance limits and pricing, which compromises safety, comfort, and event quality.

Therefore, we encourage non-binary guests who wish to attend our events to use the single female pricing tier. (This does NOT imply we recognize non-binary guests as female. It simply avoids unfairly imposing the single male premium.)

Any cis-gender males found to be inappropriately abusing this price tier to bypass gender balance limits or pricing structures may be asked to leave and may be banned from future Rhody Boats events. This does not imply our non-binary guests will be scrutinized in any way - it only applies to those found to be blatantly misrepresenting to take advantage of the controls in place to gender balance.

Gay/Lesbian Couples
Gay and lesbian individuals and couples are always welcome at our events.

As far as pricing, lesbian couples may choose to attend using the single female discount for individual tickets. However, some lesbian couples who have attended have insisted on using the more expensive couples tier - and you are free to do so, but not required to do so.

Coupled gay men may use the couples pricing tier so long as they follow the policy that couples arrive together and leave together. If you are not able to arrive or leave together, we do ask that you use the single male tier in fairness.

Coupled gay men are not required to remain together for the entirety of the event, and may engage socially or in play with other guests however they like, just as any other couple. However - any men found to be grossly misusing this policy by misrepresenting themselves to circumnavigate our single male policies will be asked to leave or possibly banned. Again, this does not mean we are actively policing anyone's status or identity - we only act when abuse of our policies is painfully obvious.

Wristbands
Rhody Boats often does use wristbands at our events. While some other groups or venues use a wristband system to identify gender or couple status with different colors or designs, we do not. Our wristbands are simply to let staff see that you did not sneak into the event to avoid security screening. Mostly we use a single color for each guest that night, but occasionally we will receive an assortment of silicone bracelets from our partners/sponsors intended as giveaways - and if we have enough for everyone at an event, we will use these as wristbands at an event to avoid adding to landfills and leaving guests with a souvenir. These may come in assorted colors - but those colors are distributed randomly - so please don't assume the color of your bracelet has any meaning.

Our Promise
Rhody Boats will always be:
A respectful space
A judgment-free environment
A place where your boundaries matter
A crew that protects one another
A party where everyone is free to be themselves

While attractions differ and comfort levels vary, every guest deserves kindness.

If issues arise or you have questions, thoughts, or suggestions, please reach out. We genuinely want to hear from you.

Call or text us anytime at (401) 450-9614.

⚓ Rhody Boats Where every sailor finds their place - and every voyage is safe, sexy, and full of connection.

Question 7

How do you pay for our events?

Accepted Answer

Donations are accepted with credit cards, Google Pay, and Apple Pay through our Eventbrite links. 
At most events, we also accept donations using cash, credit cards, and Apple Pay at the door.

Remember, most events are private parties and require an RSVP in advance for entry!

Frequently Asked Questions